Monday, September 22, 2008

What kind of friend are you?

Do you ever wonder what impact, if any you have on someone else? Sure we all make friends and then as life happens we drift apart and maybe we bump into them at a restaurant... you are polite, promise to get in touch, maybe exchange phone numbers or e-mail... and for awhile you might even do it, or plan to... but then life keeps on going... you have places to go and never enough time to reconnect with someone you haven't really talked to for years. Even if you meet for lunch it might be strained, trying to seem witty and friendly and fun. But then as you finally escape to your car, do you think about meeting up again? Or do you gradually drift apart again?
I confess to being a drifter on occasion... although I am fortunate enough to have a few friends that I cannot drift away from... they are like magnetic friends.. no matter what happens, they stay right there.. and you stay right there for them too...

But it makes me wonder about internet friends too... when you are "around" them, you might feel like the life of the party.. people respond to you, people laugh with you when you are being silly, they might even empathize with your troubles, or share heartfelt feelings.. but when you leave, do they think of you? Or is it out of sight (or site) out of mind?

As much as I like to think people miss me when I am not around, I am realistic enough to know that for the majority of people, I am not a magnet friend.. I might cross their minds now and then, but for the most part they have busy lives too... and its not a sad thing, its just honest.

I feel blessed for the few magnets I have, and I enjoy talking to the friends who just giggle or share with me and move on... life evolves like that...

5 comments:

Minxy Mimi said...

I know what you mean... somwtimes we move on and while it isnt a bad thing, it kinda makes you a little sad too. I am glad to be to you and have a magnet friend like you.

Senart Family said...

I think it depends on the friend and the impact you had on them and they had on you. My "real-life" friends are just the same as my "internet" friends. You can bond with someone maybe a little more than with someone else whether it's a board or in life and those are the magnet friends. It seems to be just the acquaintances or the surface friends (what I mean are those who just skim the surface of who you really are and vice-versa and don't really spend that time to get to know you as a person inside) that can kind of drift by. I do believe you have to try harder for those internet friendships to last longer and stay in touch otherwise it is much easier to drift from those. I've found that the true ones, internet or not, are much harder to drift from. I find myself many days thinking..man I need to call so and so or get online and tell so and so this! It's then that I know we're "magnets" b/c I WANT to confide in them and trust them to be there for me not just the surface picture.

Andrea said...

I have to admit I think of you more when I see something with a cute little cow that says Moo. LOL I am a totally forgettable friend at times. I just get into a quiet funk and that tends to make me easy to forget for some people.

Jess said...

Ah Yes the infamous friendships. I've never had many friendships and the ones that really get me laughing and thinking I usually stick around with. :)

Toni said...

You know I totally feel what you are saying and often think of the same things myself. I think we all have to go out of our way individually to keep friendships alive no matter if they are internet or "real life" friends.